How to give a great massage
What do you think when you think of massage? Slow music, gentle hands, comfort and relaxation? Sounds good and feels good, but…imagine if you are the one doing the massage, touching the silky skin and erotic curves of a woman’s body. Sexy, isn’t it?
We could go really deep into this and read about 80 massage therapy styles along with a wide variety of pressures, movements and techniques. But we are not going to. You are not a massage professional, and what really matters here is perfecting a gesture that it can be used as a powerful foreplay.
I’m going to show you how to give a sensual massage that will connect you to her body and let you explore it. Even if you only give her a 10 minute rubdown, you will be rewarded with a relaxed and happy woman in your arms (or in your bed).
How to give a sensual massage: The essential ingredients
Before you can learn how to give a sensual massage, you have to learn the ingredients. Learning, and putting them together in the right way, will have a big effect on her pleasure and getting the outcome you want.
1) Setting the mood
Setting the mood is one of the most important steps in a sensual massage. The massage is meant to be sensual! You need her to feel as comfortable as possible.
First, dim the lights and light a few candles. This provides a nice romatic ambiance. Next, prepare your place for a massage. Find a good firm surface for her to lie down (your bed, a beach towel, on the floor or even on a table. (This is assuming you don’t have a professional massage table.)) If you are giving her a simple hand or scalp massage, a chair will do just fine.
Music is a vital part of setting the right mood. Please, no AC/DC, Metallica or Marilyn Manson. Ambient sounds or something like “Liquid Mind” will do just fine.
Make sure you know what your goal is; either to make her relaxed & ready for sex or to put her to sleep. If a romantic massage is an appetizer before the main course, then choose something sexy like soul music or if its for relaxation then go for soft and slow blues, or even nature sounds such as running water or the sounds of the rain forest.
3) The oil
Oil is your main ingredient. Its as important as a mechanics wrench.
The list of appropriate oils you can use is long. Hemp, Jojoba, Hazelnut, Apricot Kernel, Argan, Avocado, Safflower, Rosehip Seed, Walnut, Camelia, Coconut, Macadamia Nut, Marula, Almond, Moringa, Grapeseed, Sunflower, Sesame, Mustard, Borage oil or mixed oils are all good choices. Experiment with a few and find what you like.
You can find all these and more at the health food store. Also, spa shops and skin care stores have a big variety of blended massage oils containing two or more oils. These can be very appealing.
Almond oil is one of the most popular and my personal favorite as a woman. It is slightly oily, but allows your hands to slide smoothly. Plus, it doesn’t get absorbed too easily so you won’t need to keep reapplying it.
**Make sure to buy organic oil in small quantities and store them in a cool area.
Sensual massage techniques
Now that you have all the ingredients to a great sensual massage its time to learn the various techniques.
The part of the body you are going to play with and the length of the play depend on your relationship with the woman. If it is a date number ten – give her a present of a full body massage. Nothing says romance like the gift of relaxation.
If it’s a one-night stand and you are feeling a bit shy in the beginning – massage her hand to relax and enjoy the beginning of skin-to-skin contact. Let the foreplay begin!